Kid Used As Prop To Prove Mother Is Edgy
Posted by bmac on February 27, 2008
This kid should be taken away by child protective services.
I see this all the time. And it always disgusts me. The kid was suspended from school after three warnings to the mother to change his haircut.( I believe a single mom). Here’s what she had to say:
Rather than request a hearing to appeal the suspension, Barile said she’ll enroll him at another school. Changing the hairstyle is not an option, she said.
“It’s something that he really likes,” Barile said. “When people hear Mohawk, they think it’s long, it’s spiked, it’s crazy looking, and it’s really not.”
Yeah, changing the style is not an option, and it’s something he really likes. You know what else six year olds like? Eating glue.
Update:
I should add that I don’t really believe child protective services should take away the kid, it’s just a hyperbolic headline that grabs attention, and highlights how ridiculous I think it is for a parent to take a kid out of what would seem to me to be a good school, to put him in a school with lower standards over a fucking haircut.
I know lots of parents that can’t get their kids into these kinds of schools due to money or zoning issues, so obviously, this mother cares more about the haircut she wants her kid to have than having him in a good school.
And I think that’s despicable.
A Fine Line Between Stupid And Clever 
LK said
You, my friend, have crossed the line into stupidity. The kid should be taken away by child protective services because of a hair cut which he has the right to wear however him and his parents want him to? If he gets suspended, the parents have one hell of a lawsuit comming their way.
People like you should just shut up.
bmac said
Telling “people like me” to shut up only proves who has crossed the line into stupidity “my friend.”
The fact that the mother would pull her kid out of school rather than change an asinine haircut, tells me:
A. The mother is more interested in the kid making her look cool than his education, and as far as I’m concerned, makes her an unfit parent. And:
B. Trust me, the kid could give a crap about his haircut, he’s in kindergarten you moron. This is about the mother.
in2thefray said
I have to say I live in a pretty decent suburb ,you know pretty well adjusted at least with the doors open and I’ve seen 6 year olds with mohawks like the one the kid is sporting.They tend to get them secondary to seeing their dads “high and tights” or a brother/ neighbor “rally” cut from sports teams. If it were green or striped and gelled up to the max I’d say the school had some grounds but…
bmac said
Well, my beef is not that the school has grounds or not. Personally, I think they do, according to the article, it’s a school where you have to wear a uniform, so they have standards that must be adhered to.
The problem is what message does this send to a 6 year old? Fight the power? Damn the man? FTW?
He’s SIX FUCKING YEARS OLD!!!
His whole life has to be screwed with over his mothers need to be a rebel?
And even if the mohawk was totally the kids idea, (which I doubt), since when do 6 year olds get to dictate their hairstyle?
Why would they even care?
Enas Yorl said
If the kid was black and had dreadlocks I doubt there would have been any fuss raised over this.
nicedeb said
Bmac, face it.
Not everyone is conservative. Some people think “deviating from the norm” is empowering…or whatever.
And the Fray’s right. It’s very possible the kid has an older male role model who sports that haircut.
Still, the school has every right to enforce dress codes, and ground rules for hairstyles.
And if the mom doesn’t like it, she has every right to pull him out and send him somewhere else.
bmac said
I don’t think everyone should be a conservative. If a high school kid wants a mohawk, no problem, I get it, and yes the mother can do whatever she wants regarding his education, that’s her right.
And it’s my right to call bullshit.
This is kindergarten. Fashion shouldn’t be the priority here. This is just an example of a parent that has to project their anti-social, rebelious bullshit on a 6 year old.
If the kid wants to rebel when he can actually think for himself, then great, I did the same thing, but the mother is making that decision for him, and that’s wrong in my opinion.
Let the kid be a kid.
Nice Deb said
Do we know that it wasn’t his idea?
The mom said he really liked it.
Incidentally, I think setting your child up to be different (weird/different) is immature, and a mistake.
Even if it was my kid’s idea, I’d say no. But like I said, not everyone thinks like we do.
bmac said
Well, even if it was his idea, it shouldn’t matter.
He would probably really like to have bionic arms too. Doesn’t mean he should get them.
You would know better than me Deb, but do six year olds generally have a concept of how they want their hair styled?
And is it a big deal to them?
It wasn’t to me, or any of my friends till like 5th or 6th grade.
I would guess what he really likes is the attention.
As does his mom.
pajama momma said
You would know better than me Deb, but do six year olds generally have a concept of how they want their hair styled?
And is it a big deal to them?
My boys never gave a rat’s patoot about their hair, however my daughter who is 6 right now, is very particular about how her hair and clothes look.
And I never ate glue, I was much more into paste.
bmac said
I totally ate paste.
Maybe that’s my problem.
The last thing a six year old boy should be concerned about is his hair.
I guarantee you, this is the moms thing.
pajama momma said
Yeah, my boys (at this present moment in time) are more interested in bugs, lizards and dirt.
My girlfriends son who is 7 is very concerned about his hair, but that is because his parents made him that way.
I swear I don’t know what happened to my daughter. I think it’s because she’s an “artist”
bmac said
Or being surrounded by all those boys makes her want to be more “girly.”
nicedeb said
Most boys that age don’t give a rat’s nutbag how they wear their hair. But not all. Anyway, my point is….experience has shown me that there are all sorts of parents out there, with different parenting philosophies, and yes, some are better than others, but in the end, unless a parent is abusing or neglecting their child in some way, I don’t get too excited about it.
But there’s nothing wrong with having strong opinions, I didn’t mean to suggest otherwise…it’s just that you came down pretty hard on the mom. But I realize that was hyperbole.
Anyway, I agree that the mom is an immature twit for doing that.
bmac said
No worries Deb.
I realize I have a tendency to paint in very broad strokes, if you will.
You have a lot more knowledge of parenting than I do, and I always respect your opinions, even if we don’t agree on whatever the subject may be.
pajama momma said
I agree that the mom is an immature twit for doing that.
What is it about the word “twit” that amuses me? I think I’d be more offended to be called that than the “C” word truthfully.
The “C” word is just something people decided one day was the be all end all of horrific words to call a woman. I guess I’d just rather be the “C” word than a twit. Go figure.
Really Robin said
I want bionic arms! And a mohawk. No, wait – no mohawk, not a good look on this fifty-year-old woman!!
OMG, if my twins had wanted their hair that way in kindergarten (I was a single parent then) I’d definately have said “No.” Not that the haircut is terrible or socially unacceptable – I mean, it’s just hair; but I have a standard of normalcy that I forced (yes, I mean forced – I’m a parent for cripes sake! It’s my job!!) on my children until adulthood! (Theirs, not mine!)
When my youngest child was in private school, we had to go over all the rules and sign a paper stating we understood them. We also had to sign papers for the others when they were in public school saying we had read and understood the rules. I guess I just assumed that breaking the rules we had accepted meant that consequences would ensue! That’s why they call them RULES, not suggestions!
If this mother did not want to work to change the rules, then leaving was the right thing for her. But to send a message like that to an impressionable six-year-old is crazy. Implying she is fighting for her son’s right is ridicules.
Would love to see how this kid does as an adult!
I’m just sayin’
R.
nicedeb said
Twits are stupid.
C***’s are revolting bitches.
The very worst thing you can be:
Twit-c***’s, (stupid, revolting bitches).
bmac said
Or………Twunts.
pajama momma said
NiceDeb just made me realize that perhaps the “C” word aint’ so nice.
Hhhmmmm, maybe I’ll just stick to mom. 🙂